CEO Chronicles # 30 : How Can I Survive in Toxic Teams?

The Final Question

“So what do you think, Karla?” I asked. “About toxic teams, and what you can do about them?”

I am sure you remember Karla. She is the young lady who was having a difficult time in a toxic work environment, and two articles ago, had asked me three questions :

• One, why are some teams so toxic?
• Two, how can toxicity be removed from teams?
• Three, what should Karla do in this situation?

My friend Faizal had answered the first one in “Why Are Some Teams Toxic?”; and a world-famous executive coach, Barbara, had addressed the second question in “How Do We Prevent Toxic Teams?”. I had shared both these detailed responses with Karla.

Now it was time to answer the final question.

Karla seemed both thoughtful and downcast. She took her time answering.

“It seems, uncle, that based on what Faizal and Barbara said, that there is very little I can do to solve the problem,” she said, haltingly.

I had reached a similar conclusion, but still asked,

“What makes you say this, Karla?”

“Well, it seems evident from both narratives that toxicity can only be removed or cured by changing the leadership and/or the culture. I am too junior and too new in this company to be able to influence either.”

I told you she was smart.

“Much as I hate agreeing with any statement that does not lead to a solution,” I said, “I have to agree. Some workplace issues cannot be resolved by junior team members, and toxicity seems to be one such.”

What Can You Do When You Are In A Toxic Team?

“Having said that,” I continued, “this does not mean that you cannot survive in a toxic team or use your time in such a team to your advantage. There are some very important learnings that you can take away from a toxic team.”

“Like what, uncle?” asked Karla skeptically.

“As you grow and move to being a manager, and then a leader; as you move positions and roles and companies, you are going to come across such situations,” I said, “isn’t it worth learning the nuts and bolts of such teams, so that you can recognise and develop strategies that you can use in the future?”

Karla brightened visibly. “That sounds like a good idea,” she said, “how do I go about it?”

“Let’s start with identifying the different kinds of players in a toxic team,” I said, “by doing this, we can make sure that you will be able to recognise what and who you are dealing with.”

The Five Enemies Of Teamwork

“A few weeks ago, I came across this write-up in a website called www.weekdone.com,” I said, “It described the five enemies of teamwork.”

The False Prophet

These employees tend to promise more (much more) than they deliver. They may not even do it intentionally, but they do it regularly. Often, these big promises are made in public (in team meetings, for example), and then forgotten in private.

The Sleeping Partner

These employees believe that shared responsibility means “everybody else shares the responsibility”! They are very good at passing bucks, transferring monkeys from their shoulders to others’ and finding reasons why not.

The Headline Hero

Some employees will, when something is done, find a way to take the credit. They are also excellent in transferring the blame if something goes wrong. Such employees are quite willing to sacrifice their colleagues and their teams on any altar that is convenient.

The Weeping Willow

Then, there are the employees who are experts in finding fault in every little thing. These people spend most of their time on criticizing instead of actually working and doing something useful.

The Lone Ranger

And finally, there are employees who have no idea of the meaning of the world “team.” They are so completely self involved that they believe in the dictum, “my way or the highway”. They don’t like to listen to others’ ideas or recommendations, and even actively tear them down.

“And, each of these categories of employees can be handled or managed,” I concluded, looking at Karla for her reaction.

Tactics To Tame Toxic Teams

Karla sat forward excitedly.

“Wow, uncle, I can relate to each of these types of employees!” she exclaimed.

“You remember that I spoke to you about Rakesh? Well, he is the perfect Headline Hero! And then there is Soon Kim, my boss – he’s a real Lone Ranger! Also, there is a lady called Phyllis in one of our teams who complains all the time about everything!”

I laughed. “Been there, seen that,” I said. “That is the beauty of such smart categorization – they come easily to life!”

“But how do I deal with these different types of colleagues?” asked Karla.

“Well, there is no one way, but there are some overarching principles.”

“With the False Prophet, you need to add a buffer of time and effort to everything they tell you; this will keep you safe from disappointment.”

“With the Sleeping Partner, what I have found is to get them to lead projects – they will find the easiest and fastest way to complete them, so that they can go back to bed!”

“In case of the Headline Hero, document every interaction and ensure that others are copied. These employees will quickly realize that they cannot piggyback on your ideas, as everyone knows that these are yours.”

“If you persuade Weeping Willows to take on loads of routine tasks, they will not be happy, but will not have the time to criticize and complain!”

“And finally, with the Lone Ranger, just best to leave them alone. If they need you, they will approach you.”

The Final Answer

“So, Karla, while not everyone can fix toxic teams, we can find ways to survive and even manage the situation to our advantage.” I said.

“As you well know, not all of us have the luxury of being able to leave our current jobs and seek another one,” I continued, “we have to make the best of the cards that we are dealt.”

“That is very true,” Karla said, with a faraway look in her eyes. “I am slowly realising that if I use the right tactics with each of my team members, I can influence the team to at least some extent…”

“Absolutely,” I said, “that is the right approach. Every colleague has a specific set of stimuli that they will respond to; it is upto you to discover the right buttons to push and when, and you will see some amazing and surprising outcomes!”

“Thank you so much, uncle,” said Karla, as she rose to leave, “I am going to give it my best shot. Thank you for listening to my problems and for helping me find answers.”

“I live to serve,” I quipped. “All the best, Karla!”

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Have you encountered the Five Enemies of Teamwork?How did you deal with them? Are there more such Enemies? Do share your views and experiences…

Please send them to me, either as a comment or as a PM. Let us cure the persistent disease of toxicity in teams…

Cheers | Shesh | Singapore | 30 June 2020.

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